To love, according to Buddhism, is above all to be there. But being there is not always an easy thing in this busy world we live in. Some training is necessary, some practice. After all, if you are not there, how can you love? Being there is very much an art, just like the art of meditation, because meditating is bringing your true presence to the here and now. Ask yourself, are you really present for those you say you love? The most precious gift you can give to the one you love is your true presence.
Do you have enough time to love? Can you make sure that in your everyday life you have a little time to love? Seems people are so busy these days and don’t make time for each other. In the morning, while eating breakfast, they may not look at each other, no time for that. They may eat very quickly while thinking about other things and sometimes may even hold a newspaper that hides the face of the one they love. In the evening they are too tired to be able to really look at each other and be present for one another.
We must bring about a revolution in our way of living our everyday lives, because our happiness, our lives, are within ourselves. And we have the power to share much more love with our dear ones and in turn to enjoy more love in our lives.
I’m grateful for having absorbed a little bit of the Italian culture this past year in Tuscany. I now make time for lunch with those I love and I don’t rush through meals or time together. I recognize the value of time and presence and know that when we are not present we can’t possibly be loving.
So as Valentine’s Day quickly approaches this week don’t fret so much about what to buy your love, because the real gift is you being there, really being there.
Happy Valentine’s Day!