One of the most challenging lessons in life is learning to not take things personally and hold on to them. If we are sensitive, we can easily take much of what comes our way to heart. This can feel overwhelming and unproductive and could easily throw us off balance on a regular basis. When we feel criticized or attacked, it can become difficult to recover and continue to speak and act our truth. This is when we would do well to remember the old saying, water off a duck, and just allow things to roll off us without sticking.
Most of the times, when others attack or criticize us it really has much more to do with them and how they are feeling than with us. If we allow ourselves to get caught up in other people’s drama or negative energy, we can lose touch with our core balance. In fact, in a positive light, these slings offer us an opportunity to strengthen our core sense of self and personal values, and to learn to allow negative energy to bounce off us. There is an art to remaining authentic and compassionate while dodging and deflecting other people’s misdirected negativity. The more we practice this, the more we’re able to discern what belongs to us and what actually belongs to other people. With a little practice, we can become masters of our energetic integrity refusing to serve as targets for the disowned unhappiness or frustrations of those around us.
The trick is to stay grounded and compassionately awake so that we are able to genuinely hear what others are saying, and to take in anything that might be constructive to our growth, while releasing that which has nothing to do with us at all. We must recognize that nothing from the outside can hurt us unless we take it in and allow it to. And then, when we see something that isn’t ours, when can we make like a duck, shaking it off and letting it roll off our backs as we continue our way in the world.